The media for the past few years is saturated with women empowerment - women fighting against men for equality in all areas of life and work. I try to stay away from writing controversial posts wherever possible but I can't help that think that there is very little evidence to support women empowering women. When I do see women supporting one another its usually for all the wrong reasons - a witch hunt against men.
This post is aimed at women in every day life and how they treat other women around them. I have recently returned to the UK from 9 months travelling, and have started back at work and socialising again amongst new and old groups of friends. What I do notice is that when meeting up with the girls there is very little positive chat on what other women are doing. The chat is what a certain or couple of females are doing wrong that they don't agree with. One of my friends spent over an hour the other day chatting about a girl in the office that her and apparently everyone else in her team doesn't really like. The girl is apparently rude, doesn't dress right and just doesn't measure up against the other girls". As women, we often make superficial judgements of other women too quickly, we then spread this opinion and change the mindset of others close to us on this person and then treat them based on our judgement. I have, in the past been guilty of this too until I was the subject of a group of girls behaving like this towards me. I had previously been someone that was never a threat in the office, I was overweight, didn't take care of my appearance in the way they did, wore frumpy clothes, I was quiet and lacked confidence. When I went through my own transformation my confidence changed. I started taking more pride in my appearance how I dressed, conducted myself and they didn't like it, I then became the victim of their lunchtime gossip and treated like an outsider. A common subject on the Nemesis private client forum, is role models, inspirational people who we aspire to be like. Although there are women in the fitness world that I look up to or whose bodies I admire, my ultimate role model has to be Michelle Mone. I read her autobiography a year ago to this very month, and was so inspired by everything she has achieved in life when the odds were against her. Her book inspired me to read further autobiographies by powerful women (especially entrepreneurs). There are far too many women out there who are unaware that they themselves are inspiring others unknowingly, and in doing so we lack the ability to empower one another. As females we rarely tell one another how fantastic they are, or how we look up to them etc. My friend Sarah inspires me because she runs multiple businesses, she is constantly learning new skills, she gives so much time to other people, she runs a family home and 3 kids. My friend Katrina went through a phenomenal life and body transformation over the past few years and I am in total awe at her dedication and persistence. Every Sunday my clients check in with me with a review of their week on plan, they may have fallen off the wagon on some days, never went to the gym etc but I always look for a positive to motivate and empower them. There is always a positive in every situation. If someone has lost weight – TELL THEM If someone painted a great picture – TELL THEM If someone has a beautiful smile –TELL THEM If someone has beautiful earings on – TELL THEM If you notice any positive however small – TELL THEM. Women need to support other women AND men! We also need to realise that we all have different opinion's and aspirations for our future or how we want to live our life. If someone wants the suburbia family life but you want a career and jet setting, those around you should support you not mock. Positivity starts at home
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AuthorsSharon & Lainey are Online PT & Nutrition Advisors with a combined 18 years experience in the Health & Fitness Industry. Archives
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